sharp, prickly and living tired

Audrey Hepburn - For beautiful eyes look for the good in others lips speak kind words

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I’ve noticed, very recently that I don’t wholly feel myself.

I feel sharp and prickly, less tolerance than normal for energy suckers or criticism. Who is anyone to judge or be downright mean? Where do people find the time in between everything to be so wasteful with their words? Careless with their energy?

I’m not entirely sure what to do with these sharp edges… I’ve always cautioned on the edge of black and white, careful to mix some shades of grey. Who knows, maybe we are all just a little hypocritical at heart.

I feel like I have absolutely lived this week tired. I forgot how exhausting when your body decides to do that. Unfoturnately it occurred at precisely 9:40 when I still had three hours of exam left and four hours in the city. And continued, so on and so forth.

I had a conversation on the drive home from work the other day – completely devoid of emotion on my part, flat – about doing things because we need to, because it is just what we do, or need to get done. Like laundry and cooking and cleaning. And going to work and doing work and gym and study and balancing.

I think the danger in living like that, all the time, is missing out on the joy. The standing in the sunshine hanging out the washing (have to) while the dogs are running in circles around you and you are doing the dance to avoid being charged (joy)…. ever been charged by a 26kg bulldog who hits you mid calf? Thats a fair bit of force right there. Getting to the gym (non negotiable) hitting a pb and feeling the muscles work (joy). Going to bed at night feeling like you achieved everything on your have to list, but lived a full day? Joy.

Anyway, my point in the middle of all of this is take care. Dont make plans to break plans. Don’t throw words out carelessly for whatever reasons. Be gentle with yourself and with other. Seek to be kind, rather than to be right. Find time to sit and be still (or for hours in the door of the room that your puppy is scared to enter into, with her observing, very careful to be tucked right into you). Find peace, in the busy-ness. Remember it’s not personal. Delve inward instead of outward.

Seek joy in the have-to.

Take care of yourself and your tribe. Then, all can be well.

don’t stop believing

ever

put on your war paint

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Two weeks ago now, my PT reminded me that I needed to set some new goals. I almost laughed as we went through my old ones – in a good way of course. The ‘gain enough confidence to attend group classes’ and ‘go to the gym 3 – 4 times a week’ which seemed like such a big stretch just a few months away seems like a lifetime ago. Which is a great thing. I’m proud of the determination, the commitment and follow through action that I have somehow managed.

One thing that has carried me through- especially on the days where it sucked and I was having a little girl tantrum of ‘not wanting to go to the gym because I DONT FEEL LIKE IT!!’ is this: I am not controlled by my emotions. I don’t brush my teeth or make myself presentable because I feel like it. I do it, because it is simply what I do. My exercise is not something I always feel like doing, but I do it, because it is what I do. Commitment isn’t about a feeling, it is about a decision. A decision that I made to continually be a better version of myself and who I was yesterday.

So. My winter goals – and even saying that is weird, because I have not ever, ever, ever exercised through winter before. So, this whole thing is new and fresh and exciting. Anyway, my winter goals:

  • Do a chin up unassisted. With my two bare hands. And my body weight. So I either need to like, lose most of my body weight, or start building some serious cannons. A lot of this is mind over matter, so i’m not going to say can not, or psych myself out. We will work on it and by the end of winter I’ll be smashing out some serious unassisted chin up rep’s. 
  • Do 15×3 sets of man push ups. Maybe even on that bloody bosu killing ball. But without is fine too. I’m good with knees, I’m good with half and half, but i’m not satisfied with either.
  • If i had enough dedication to some insane clean eating I would say I’d like to see some abs. But I don’t, and I also think thats entirely unrealistic for me, right now. So I’d just like to lose say, another 5cm off my stomach. Thats do-able.
  • Get my eating sorted – healthy 80% of the time.
  • Run 10km straight, no stopping, no intervals. Because I am still petrified of treadmills, this is an out of the gym thing, and it’s probably a bit of an awesome one – one that I might be able to do with Adam too.

Some of those look a bit hairy, all of them are definitely a big stretch!! But then, isn’t that what setting goals is all about – hitting milestones you may never have thought possible? All that dream, believe, achieve with a lot of sweat and hard work stuff? With some planning? Here is the how: plan, use your satur-self-day to plan your week ahead; keep being consistent with the gym and your food; PT is already booked in, check; stay focused; ignore the cold; buy new skins.

Check in: one month, just as the shock of the cold, especially in the morning starts to hit.

who cares what they say

yep yep

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